January 16, 2021

Mary Commanday Is US Ambassador Chris Stevens’ Mother (PHOTOS)

There are no words to described the pain a others experiences when she loss her son or daughter, even more painful is to see how they died or how some people displayed photos of them nearly dying all over the web like we saw photos of US Ambassador Chris Stevens yesterday. But today many want to remember the great he was  not by those gruesome last photos of him but by the many qualities that made him the great man he was, one of those people is his beloved mother Mary Commanday.

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Many people who met US Ambassador Christopher Stevens can  talk non-stop about what a great man he was, the kindness of his heart, the humbleness he showed, the great sense of humor he always had, but one nobody knew him better or miss him the most as his beloved mother Mary, who said her son’s death left her with a hole in her heart.

“He did love what he did, and did a very good job with it. He could have done a lot of other things, but this was his passion. I have a hole in my heart,”

“I sure do feel animosity toward those nuts who got in there and did this, (but) it had nothing to do with the politics of Libya. They were not insurgents, they were Islamic fanatics,”

Mary J. Floris Commanday. once known as Mary J. Stevens gave birth to her beloved son John Christopher Stevens  on April 18th, 1960 in Nevada County, CA

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Her husband  was Jan S. Stevens a UC Berkeley graduate, former councilman at Davis City, Assistant Attorney General in California and Superior Court Judge at Yolo County. She is also the beloved mother of Ambassador’ Stevens’ two siblings,  49-year-old Anne Stevens (b. November 28, 1965) who is a professor and a doctor at Seattle Children’s (Pediatric Rheumatology)

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And younger brother 46-year-old Tom Stevens (b. November 28, 1965) a white- collar crime specialized attorney in Piedmont.

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Jan Stevens is now married to his wife Carol

Jan S. Stevens Chris Stevens  father

And Mary got married to Robert Commanday, former music critic at the chronicle (1965 to 1993), founder of the San Francisco Classical Voice Magazine(founded in 1998), former president at the Music Critic Association of North America, former a member and conductor of the UC Glee Club and Treble Clef Society, he was also a lectured at Berkeley University.

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75-year-old Mary J. Commanday was born in January 17th, 1937, she lived  in Piedmont, CA until the mid 90’s when she relocated to Oakland, where she still lives now. Mrs. Commanday was a cellist with the Marin Symphony from 1976 until 2004, played under the direction of Sandor Salgo since her arrival until 1990, then with Gary Sheldon until  2001, and with Marin’s current Maestro Alasdair Neale until 2004. She also served as associate editor to the San Francisco Classical Voice (SFCV). She has been happily married to 90-year-old Rob Commanday for more than 30 years.

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In 1993 Mary Commanday publish her book “The Berkeley Piano Club: One hundred years of harmony”, and in 1989 Camille Antoine (Arnoux) Solon.

The Berkeley Piano Club One hundred years of harmony Mary  Commanday

Mr. Chris Stevens never got married and had no children, but his legacy will live forever in the lives of  his beloved family, dear friends and colleges. These people are thankful for the 52 years they had Mr. Steven in their lives, for  the fond memories he left in their hearts and minds.

4 thoughts on “Mary Commanday Is US Ambassador Chris Stevens’ Mother (PHOTOS)

  1. My deepest condolences on the the loss of your beloved son.
    It is my hope that he be rememberred as a 9/11 anniversary hero.

  2. Though I did not know your son, I knew his Grandfather, “Chief” Stevens, one of my favorite substitute teachers throughout my time in school in Grass Valley. His tender and caring nature sounds like it extended to your son. My sincerest sympathies to your entire family.

  3. Ma’am Mary, my deepest sympathies to your entire family. I am Nengneng Sales the former housekeeper of Sir Chris Stevens in Jerusalem, Israel.

  4. Ms. Mary Commanday:

    I can’t begin to tell you how sorry I am that our country has let you down. I am the mother of a US Marine who served in Afghanistan, and I am deeply saddened by your loss. I weep with you. I weep for you.

    Please know that you and your loved ones are in my prayers, and I hope you find comfort in God and that your dedicated, and wonderful son is with our Lord. Please accept my condolences as a mother, woman, and American.

    I am so proud of your son, and I’m extremely grateful for his service to our country. I pray for peace in your heart, your family, and your life. I am an advocate, demanding answers from the Obama Administration. I am sickened by the way you and yours have been treated. I am vocal and adamant on pushing the issue to get to the truth of what happened in Benghazi.

    Once again, I am so sorry for your loss…a major loss to our country.

    May God Bless you and comfort you during your time of tragedy and devastation.


    Margaret Sullivan
    North Charleston, SC

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